Recently I had the opportunity to purchase a ticket to see Duke play in the NCAA Finals Game in Indianapolis.  I really wanted to go, but I decided against it. I decided not to go because I had just taken a trip to Cuba and I realized that I couldn’t keep using the excuse that “this is a once in a lifetime experience” to justify my unplanned spending. On the day of the Finals game I was really upset, because while I was in college Duke never got this far, and I’ve always had to watch Duke play in the big games on TV. I wished that I had the opportunity to see Duke play a big game in person, and having to say no to that opportunity because I didn’t have the money hurt.


I started to question the faith walk that I’m on. God told me to leave my job to inspire women around the world to be frugal and phenomenal. However that meant giving up my six-figure income. Previously, I was able to do most of the things that I wanted but I chose not to because I wanted to pay off my credit card debt, limit overspending, and become financially free. You see I said that I chose not to and not that I was unable to. Now I’m in the position where I can’t do certain things and have certain experiences that I would have been able to have if I had a steady paycheck. This journey is starting to get uncomfortable because my disposable income wasn’t what it used to be and that hurts.

As I was ranting about how much that sucked and how I really wanted to see Duke play. A friend of mine reminded me that I’m complaining about a want while other people in Detroit can’t pay their water bills. She also reminded me that this situation is temporary and that when God asks you to sacrifice He is preparing you for something greater. My friend also reminded me that we inspire through our experiences and that He has to get rid of me so He can show His glory and magnificent through me. It doesn’t make the journey less difficult, but someone else will be delivered through my experience.

This message really helped me to put things into perspective. It reminded me of my trip to Cuba. The people there didn’t have much but they were proud of and appreciated what they had. The kids didn’t have fancy gadgets or toys. Instead they played outside and had fun. People enjoyed life by building up community and identified ways to uplift others. There was way less of a focus on what they can get for themselves. As I put it into perspective I realized that instead of beating myself up for what I couldn’t do, I should praise God for the blessings that I have and for the deliverance that other people will have because I said yes to His mission. I realized that God is taking me through a different financial reality so He can allow me to reach my full potential. That’s way better than having the opportunity to see my favorite team play.

Instead of focusing on what I can’t do, I choose to focus on what I can. How will you shift your perspective?  Leave a comment below to let me know!

Aisha Taylor is a #1 Amazon Best Selling Author of the book “5+5 FNPhenomenal Ways to Save $100 This Week Without Killing Your Lifestyle”, the Founder of FNPhenomenal (Frugal –n- Phenomenal), and creator of The Live Phenomenal Program.  The Live Phenomenal Program is a program designed to give you the tools that you need to totally transform your finances, and stop living from paycheck-to-paycheck. It’s time for you to be Financially Phenomenal!  Book your complimentary 20-minute financial clarity session with Aisha here.

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