“Watch Your Thoughts, They Become Words; Watch Your Words, They Become Actions.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
I love the above quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson because he emphasizes that everything starts in your mind. Our brains internalize the messages that we speak and hear on a daily basis, so eventually, the things that we speak will manifest itself in our lives as actions.
If you want to change your outcomes then you need to change your thoughts. You may think that a couple of thoughts about what you can’t do or what’s going wrong are meaningless. However, your mind is like a garden. Whatever is planted and fertilized grows. That seemingly meaningless thought is really a weed that is planted in your mind. You are fertilizing that limiting belief every time you focus on what you can’t do or what you don’t want. The more you think negatively, the more the weed grows until it pushes everything else out. That’s when you start to see the impact in your words, actions, and eventually in your outcomes.
It’s time to clean up that garden. Here is how you can make the changes that you need to shift your thoughts, words, and actions.
Watch the messages that you tell yourself. There is power in the tongue, and the phrase “I am” is extremely powerful. Anything that you declare with the words “I am” should be positive, uplifting, and reflective of what you want in life.
Practice daily gratitude. When you are grateful for the things that you do have, then you will position yourself to have more. Even if things aren’t going well, find something that you can be grateful for in that moment.
Look for the learning. There is a message and a lesson in every situation. Look for the lesson, because you will stay where you are until you learn the lesson or grow into the person that you are called to be. You can’t lead someone where you haven’t been. You are where you need to be so you can learn the lesson, develop the blueprint, and then be in a position to deliver others from similar situations.
Engage in daily reflection. Spend time alone daily to think about what went well and what didn’t. This will help you to identify themes, tie all of your thoughts together, and gain clarity from your current situation.
Evaluate the people who are in your life. You are the average of the people who you are around. If you are around 9 positive people who are pursuing their dreams, then chances are you will be number 10. Similarly, if you are around 9 negative people, then chances are you are number 10. When we are trying to get to the next level, it can be hard to accept that everyone can’t come with you. If the people in your circle are draining you, are not uplifting, encouraging, or challenging you then you need a new circle.
It is possible to get where you want to be. You just have to make a decision to create new thoughts, which will eventually lead to new outcomes. In the meantime, look for the lessons in where you are now. Even though you may not be where you want to be, you are where you need to be now so that you can grow, prepare yourself to have more, and use your experience to be a testimonial to others.
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Aisha Taylor is a single mom of twins, personal financial coach, work from home entrepreneur, and #1 Amazon Best Selling Author of the book “5+5 FNPhenomenal Ways to Save $100 This Week Without Killing Your Lifestyle.” Aisha has been featured in ESSENCE and Jet Magazine. She is also the Founder of FNPhenomenal (Frugal –n- Phenomenal), a movement designed to help single moms transform their finances, enjoy life, and stop living from paycheck-to-paycheck. It’s time for you to be Financially Phenomenal!