This month’s FNPhenomenal Woman is AJ Williams of the Single Black Chick. She is a very good friend of mine and also one of my accountability buddies. Her energy and wisdom is amazing and she inspires me every day. I can’t wait for you all to learn more about her! – Aisha
What do you do and why is it important?
I am a digital editor for the Michigan Chronicle/Real Times Media and Blogger in Chief at Single Black Chick.com. I believe the being in the digital media/web design field is important because there is a low percentage of African-American women in these fields, I like being a trailblazer and blaze the way for the next generation.
Single Black Chick.com is a passion project for me. I’ve been single, married, divorced, and now single again and from those experiences I’ve been able to find the true meaning of single and self love. I am passionate about sharing this message in a fun way. I share my candid take on relationships, life and love using my dating life as a platform to empowering black women to embrace their skin, sexuality, soul and personal journey.
What would you tell your younger self?
Not to chase love and marriage first, but to chase finding myself, knowing myself and loving myself first so I can be a suitable mate and attract the same. Also, not to sweat the small stuff, listen to the universe and have faith that God is leading you, even though you can’t understand or see it right now.
What is the single best piece of advice that you have learned?
If you dream it, visualize it, speak it and pursue it, you will achieve. Never give up and always, always wear your blinders and run your race, not everybody else’s. Oh, and it is ok to be different and weird, to me it’s a sign of greatness.
How did you get the courage to step out and live your authentic self by pursing your passion?
I really had no choice, I was filled with all these emotions and I just started writing notes on facebook, which turned into a local radio host giving me the idea to create a blog, which was my first blog, called “Love, Words and Wisdom.” It was therapy for me, but it got a lot of traffic, because it was a lot of women were going through the same struggles I was going through.
What are your guiding principles?
Learning to truly let go when I don’t understand something. It’s very hard, but it’s also a very necessary action in order to ignite faith and to allow God to step in and handle the who, what, when and why.
What does the word “phenomenal” mean to you?
Extraordinary, Exceptional, Gifted, Beautiful, Whole (Single)
What is your favorite book and why?
It changes frequently, but right now it’s Iyanla Vanzant’s book called Forgiveness. The reason why, is because forgiving is one of the hardest things to do, especially for a person like me. So it’s something I am in constant practice of doing. Also, because once you do forgive, it opens the universe up to move you on to your next acheivement, love and/or journey.
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